What I am learning is I still have a lot to learn when it comes to the subject of love.
We all have these dreams and
desires expectations about what life and especially love is supposed to be like and look like by a certain age.
And one day you realize life is messy and love is complicated and not always the picture of perfection you had once imagined.
But most often that picture is an illusion and can keep you from actually experiencing real life and truly loving someone.
You realize love is much more than a feeling … love is often a choice and most always requires an action.
Because for me, reading “love is patient” is a lot different than living “love is able to accept or tolerate delays or problems without becoming annoyed or anxious.”
So I’m trying to relearn to love …
“able to accept or tolerate delays or problems without becoming annoyed or anxious.”
“having or showing a gentle nature and desire to help others; wanting and liking to do good things and bring happiness to others.”
does not envy.
“does not have a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another’s advantages, successes, or possessions.”
does not boast.
“does not talk with excessive pride and self satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.”
is not proud.
“does not have an excessively high opinion of oneself or one’s importance.”
is not rude.
“is not discourteous or impolite, especially in a deliberate way.”
is not self-seeking.
“is not concerned only about getting what you want or need with no regard or care for what happens to other people.”
is not easily angered.
“does not quickly have a strong feeling of displeasure or hostility or if it does, does not immediately act on it.”
keeps no record of wrongs.
“forgives and refuses to keep track of personal slights received.”
does not delight in evil.
“no gloating over someone else’s guilt or rejoicing when someone is found guilty for a crime or a sin; does not wish others harm or ill will.”
rejoices with the truth.
“celebrates what is right and good; has nothing to hide; promotes virtue.”
“always defends or guards from attack, invasion, loss, or insult; to cover or shield from injury or danger.”
“to place trust in, rely on, believe; to look forward to with confidence.”
“to continue in a course of action even in the face of difficulty.”
love never fails.
“never loses strength, fades, or dies away; never ends without success.”
~1 Corinthians 13:4-8
And I’m learning this kind of love isn’t just to be quoted at wedding ceremonies or reserved for romantic relationships, but love like this should be extended to everyone in our lives.
Our friends, family, and coworkers also long for a love that is patient, kind, hopeful, and persevering.
So while you’re waiting for the “happily ever after” kind of love, try learning to love the people around you a little bit better … a little more like Him.
“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19