As I was catching up on “Keeping Up With the Kardashians” the other night, reality’s glam girls reminded me of not-so glam reality. In this particular episode, Bruce surprises wife Kris (mother of Kim, Kourtney, and Khloe) with a 20-year anniversary trip to Bora Bora for the family. WOW!! What was so sad is that Kris couldn’t even focus on the trip or the anniversary for fear of being next to her daughters in a bikini. Not so wow. This post is not a judgment on Kris K. or any of her daughters, in fact they are all stunningly beautiful, however, it is reminder of the sad truth that we women feel the need to constantly compare ourselves 🙁
Why is this? What is it about comparison that will take us to the extent of not even enjoying life with our own family?
Theodore Roosevelt said, “comparison is the thief of joy,” and in the case of the Kardashians (and most of us if we are honest) it proves to be true.
Paul takes it a step further in Romans 12 and reminds us what comparison does…
“…Let’s just go ahead and be what we were made to be, without enviously or pridefully comparing ourselves with each other, trying to be something we’re not…” Romans 12:6 (the message)
There it is: comparison leads to one or two things: envy or pride. Envy…thinking we are not enough and want what someone else has OR pride…thinking so highly of ourselves that we actually think we are above someone else. Last time I checked I don’t want to be either of those and last time I checked neither pride nor envy produces anything positive in my life.
What Paul does tell us to do here is “be what we were made to be” and quit “trying to be something we’re not.” We are ALL beautiful and unique and amazing in our own ways. God created one of each of us for a purpose and there is just enough room in this world for one of you. 🙂
I’m not going to pretend I don’t struggle with this or that the above paragraph is a cure all for all of our comparison struggles. Honestly, this side of heaven we will probably always struggle with comparison in some form. However, acknowledging the ugly pathway that comparison leads us down and the truth that we each have a uniquely individual place in this world is a start. So tell me…
Do you struggle with comparison? How do you deal with this?