We all want to be loved.
And we all want to be known.
But you can only be loved to the extent that you are known.
And the thing is most of us don’t even know who we are enough to truly love ourselves much less to allow anyone else to know or love us.
Internationally renowned speaker and author, Henri Nouwen says we go through life constantly asking the question “Who am I?” and we determine our answer to that question in 1 of 3 ways…
- I am what I do
- I am what others say about me
- I am what I have
Nouwen goes on to say we incorrectly base our value, self worth, and identity in the highs and lows of these three answers. Undoubtedly this is is how our culture operates, but is this really who you are? Are these the only things to make you worthy of love?
What if who you really are is to know that you are already loved?
In his compelling sermon Being the Beloved, Nouwen claims our true identity already exists…that we are His beloved sons and daughters. And it is in this true identity we are able to fully know and love ourselves and allow others to do the same. He also says we can’t authentically love others until we completely embrace our identity as His beloved.
“I’ll call nobodies and make them somebodies; I’ll call the unloved and make them beloved.” Romans 12:25 (the message quoting Hosea)
Because the truth is you are already loved.
You are loved more than you know by someone that died to know you.
And there is nothing you can do to make Him love you any more or any less than He does in this moment right now.