So Tuesday night marked the annual Victoria’s Secret fashion show, also known as the night where social media is buzzing with girls talking about how these genetically “perfect” supermodels bring to realization their insecurities of being not so genetically “perfect.”
I saw tweets such as…
”I’m never eating again“
”RIP my self esteem”
“wonder what its like to look that perfect…wishful thinking.”
It breaks my heart to see young girls tear themselves up wishing they looked different physically.
But it breaks my heart even more that they’ve bought into the lie that says if I look perfect on the outside then I’ll feel whole and complete and perfect on the inside.
The truth is every girl struggles with insecurities about her appearance…even supermodels. Cameron Russell, who has walked the VS runway herself, discusses this reality in her brave and bold Ted Talk (video below)…
“Image is powerful but also image is superficial…The thing that we (models) never say on camera, that I have never said on camera is that I am insecure.”
How in the world could a supermodel be insecure about her appearance?
Because an appearance is simply that…the way someone “appears” on the outside but no true indication of who they are on the inside.
In Empty Promises, Pastor Pete Wilson writes…
“External beauty cannot bring us the internal satisfaction we hope so desperately that it will…Striving to find significance, acceptance, or power based on the beauty standards of this world will leave you empty, hurt, and ultimately destroyed.”
For many years, I bought into this empty promise of pursuing a “perfect” physical appearance only to realize its a never ending spiral into even more…insecurity. Now, there is nothing wrong with wanting to look your best, but the problem is I was looking to my appearance to give me something only God can give me.
The truth is achieving physical perfection will never make you feel complete and secure.
“I believe the beginning of a healthy self image is seeing ourselves as God sees us-no more and no less. In him and him alone will we find the approval and validation our hearts long for.”
The only thing that will make you feel whole and complete and secure on the inside is knowing who you are and whose you are in a relationship with Jesus Christ.
For me, embracing this truth has been a process over many years. I’ll be the first to admit I still love glam makeup, an adorable outfit, and I sometimes even get paid to appear a certain way and represent a brand. But what I have learned is that while these things are fun temporarily, they are not at all fulfilling long term.
Who I am is found in Christ and my security rests in Him alone because…
“It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for.” ~Ephesians 1:11
So next time insecurity comes creeping in, remember…
what you look like is not who you are.
And while an attractive appearance may provide you some attention, it will never fulfill you with the affirmation you are truly seeking.
Because only Jesus can take your insecurities and truly make you secure.